Ten steps to new love

[rupak]

Step one: Make up your mind what you really want!

What sort of woman do you want to be with? A jolly friend to share the company with a bottle of beer, another football fan? The girl to be one of your fellow-guys? An enthusiastic lover? Or full of inspiration caring woman to include all above said?

Be flexible - don't create an identical picture stating eye color, height and profession - but do think through the role you want this woman to play in your life. Think about your current situation before deciding what sort of woman and relationship you want. Write it down. Read it.



Step two: Clear away your mental blocks!

What's stopped you getting a woman in the past? Were you too nervous to make the first step? Were you so picky that you turned down every lady at first glance? Or perhaps you were still so in love with your ex that you simply weren't open to other offers. Choose a trusted friend and ask him or her to give you clear feedback. Make sure they give you some achievable things to change - get a new hairstyle, smile more etc. Probably you need to examine how you behave and be honest about where you're going wrong.



Step three: Feel free to make new acquaintances and friends!

The equation's quite simple - the more women you meet, the better chance you have of finding the right one. This strategy's particularly important when you're alone. So especially if you're past the peak dating-age of 16-22, where almost every woman you meet is single, you absolutely have to get out there. Just from now accept every invitation and make use of every chance you come across. Ask everyone you know to introduce you to their friends. Log on to friendship and dating sites. Go to singles clubs. Quite simply, break the mould of your existing social life and meet as many new people as possible.



Step four: Express yourself!

Unfortunately we sometimes lack the confidence - or the social competence - to pick up the signals and take things further. So spell it out for your lady - not by being overtly sexual, but by emphasizing your normal friendly verbal and non-verbal signs.

When you meet an interesting woman, make her the focus of your attention - look, smile, and nod and ask questions. Mirror her body language with yours. Stand close to her when you're talking - just to the extent that you could comfortably reach out and touch. If you sense she's interested but isn't making a move, take the initiative - suggest a drink or a film.



Step five: Get to know her better!

By watching her, by asking her, by seeing how she behaves to you and to the other people you see her with.



Step six: Make your first date special!

The best first dates lay the foundations for a wonderful relationship - by getting you both relaxed, talking, and getting to know each other. So as well as the classic romantic meal, consider more quirky activities like walking, bowling, or even going to a sports match, where you can interact and have fun together.

Do your research. Find out what good activities and relaxed eateries are available in the area your date is going to take place. That way, when you arrange to meet a woman, you can make some good suggestions as to where to go and what to do - she'll be impressed by your originality and taste. Most importantly, when you do meet for that date, relax and enjoy yourself.



Step seven: Show your sagacity and creativity!

From the very first date, make your woman happy to be with you. How do you do this? Be happy yourself - laugh, chat and be enthusiastic and energetic, plan fun things when you're together, and be positive about her and about you. It's very tempting, particularly if you've been without a partner for a while, to make every date intense or serious. But such emotional involvement takes time to develop and can be a turn off - begin by having a good time together.



Step eight: Make the thorough beginning of your relationships!

If you want to develop a sound relationship, you need to set the ground rules right from the start - the later you leave it, the harder it'll be to change the basics.

From the first date onwards, make sure that the two of you are taking roughly equal time to talk and listen, that you are both getting what you need, that you only allow a level of intimacy that you're comfortable with, that you are telling each other clearly if either of you does or says anything which offends or insults the other. If something's wrong, be honest with yourself and her, clear up the situation immediately.



Step nine: Build intimacy!

To build a relationship quickly, you can't simply sit back and let things take their course. Of course, if the two of you aren't compatible, then nothing you do will change that. But if you're getting on well and feeling relaxed with each other, then you can actively build intimacy.

First, get interested in what she's interested in, and get her involved in the things you're interested in whether it's sports, hobbies, music or films.

Second, open up about your thoughts and feelings, particularly the positive ones, and ask about hers.

Third, start mixing with each other's friends - use the opportunity of office parties and festive get togethers to slowly include her in your life.

Last but not least, touch - not just during sex but at other times; skin on skin contact is one of the key ways that humans bond with each other.



Step ten: Have a great time together!

Notice every second minute of your being together. Enjoy your time! Don't stick to misunderstandings that you came across at times

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